Wednesday 23 September 2009

All about Oluchi...

I've been thinking about Oluchi. Maybe its cos I've thinking about marriage and all the girls i've known.

Oluchi is the only other girl besides Z that i've ever really admitted to myself that i actually love - or should i say, loved. I met Oluchi during my matric ceremony in FUTO - we were both matriculating, actually. My dad knew her mum - turned out we were from the same villa - so, we were introduced. I didn't see Oluchi again until weeks later when i ran into her at a buka with one of my course-mates, Bola; they were room-mates. Problem was I'd forgotten who she was, so Bola had to re-introduce us again, lol. We chatted for a while about this and that, exchanged room numbers (phone numbers and handsets were still in the future) with Bola playing match-maker in the background.... and that was it.

Oluchi and I weren't exactly close, but we had this... i dunno, special crazy connection - i'd start a sentence and she'd finish it, using the very same words i had in mind - damn, it WAS crazy. My friends knew it, her friends knew; it was all over the two of us. And then....

And then, i asked her to be my girlfriend.

And she said "no".

And i asked "why?"

And she said cos she's engaged.

And i asked to whom.

And she started telling me this dog-bites-chicken story of some dude somewhere far far away.... She was lying - she knew it, i knew it and she knew i knew it - but i was too hurt to pursue the issue. I was too hurt... I'd prepared for days for this, i was so sure, the signs were all there... I was numb with hurt. But hey, life goes on right? So i went away, bearing away my rejected heart - i don't know how to put this, how to explain in words what it felt like. I couldn't think straight for days.

Oluchi was sorry - really, really sorry - giving me the "we-can-still-be-friends" line. Fcuk that, i said; 2nd place is for suckers. But Oluchi persisted - bless her heart - she kept on calling and checking on me until i relented, and we became more or less friends again. Whatever the fcuk that was.

We got close again in final year; that was 4 years later and i was now... well, i wasn't the good boy i used to be anymore. But Oluchi didn't seem to mind, guess she took me just the way i was. She'd just moved off-campus and her house was somehow close to mine - but it wasn't the same any more. Rejection isn't something one forgets easily, plus i now had a string of girlfriends. Ok, maybe not a whole string, but definitely a handful, yep. Oluchi invited me to her place one night. I went. But nothing happened - i liked Oluchi too much for just a one-night stand, but my pride wouldn't let me get back together with her. Plus there was now this girl i really liked a lot. So i went away, and....

And the next day, Oluchi got herself a new boyfriend. Hell's gat no fury as a woman scorned. But there's one question i still can't wrap my head around to this day: Why did Oluchi refuse me when i was her's to keep??

All that is history now shaa. Oluchi is married now; she gave birth late last year. We still call each other, and she still laughs at my jokes. But sometimes, i wonder...

10 comments:

Myne Whitman said...

Until I got to the last bit, I wan say make you go find Oluchi quick quick. As per, you know we women sometimes no dey like good boys maybe that's why Oluchi like you when you don spoil small. LWKMD.

Well the august visitor still dey picture so do you know now whether you love her?

Fabulo-la said...

Maybe it was..or is her loss?

sweetness said...

u guys were never meant to be together. simple
these things happen, and they have one thing in common
they all suck
so wassup with u now...
back on the good side abi...
lwkm

Nice Anon said...

All these mancee type stories. I can imagine both of you in that una hat and gown.

Okwa agwalam gi si tell us the whole gist on this new babe na? Ele mgbe ina ebu mii n'isi ya?

kay9 said...

@MyneW: what indeed do women want?? lol. As per august visitor, well, you know what they say: Once bitten...

@Fab: I just try not to see it in terms of who lost and who didn't; its just life, you know. Like Bruce Almighty said, "that's just the way the cookie crumbles!" :)

@DannyB: Got your mail, brov. I don't know, i think Blogger has tinkerd wiv my settings; my followers widget is blank, too.
Anyways, i feel you man, just gotta forget whats gone and enjoy the present. Saw a quote t'other day :Don't take life too seriously - you'll never escape it alive anyway! :D

@sweetness: yes o, i'm super-duper okay-dokay! :D But you know, memories can giv you the blues once in a while.

@Ada bekee: Shebi mancee don become adjective, okwa ya? Chere ka o nuya n'onu gi! About Z, ehmmm.... lol.... see, i go yarn the full jist VERY soon. (wink!)

Repressed One said...

lol@ "what indeed do women want??"...uall men nko?

She might be wondering too. Alot of us have been there...u make a decision and tho you stand by it you can't help but wonder...

bring z tori na...

Nice Anon said...

5 m: Elekwanu etu ijiri cho ichiputam ukwu n'ama? Imaghi na onaghi ara ahu ihere abiam? Eh? Eyaaa ahurum aka oru gi. M biara kam kele gi maka okwu oma ikwuru mgbasaram. Onye nwe anyi ga gozie gi o! Maji soro maji o! Mu na gi wu otu!

kay9 said...

@Rep1: You'll get it, no fear. :D

@Ada-bekee: Obi wuzi m soso paulina-paulina :)

Ms. 'dufa said...

Awww...U never know sha. Maybe u asked at the wrong time. Maybe she was never meant for U. U never know.

Ms. 'dufa said...

P.S: You and Nice Anon should stop opressing me with your Igbo o! Biko, I'll vex and speak my own for you

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